There is a terrible dichotomy in most men's minds;
when their wives are alive and with them;
they don't realise her importance, and rarely appreciate her works, efforts, and care she is taking of the family;
but when they become very old, start feeling her need and importance;
and when these wives are no more;
these men feel terribly lonely, full of agony, and they don't know how to manage being alone;
the women when alone can still manage, and especially if they are mothers;
they spend their times with their children and the grandchildren;
keep themselves busy in the kitchen, and house-hold chores;
these women are mentally very strong, though regarded as weak;
they may not argue, fight back, may not be demanding or even assertive, but these soft ladies are terrifically very strong inwardly;
they have tremendous patience;
they have had taken a lot of burden in the families and in their societies;
they have lot of tolerance, and internal sagacity, they would have 'swallowed' a lot of venomous taunts and insults from many, and even from their own husbands;
these ladies then have become highly seasoned, cured, mature and embodiment of tolerance;
only when they are no more, we the men start feeling their needs most, we start missing them, since we can't live without them;
we the men are naturally evolved that weak way, the women are naturally evolved that strong way;
in my own community, and my closer society, hundreds of old women lived for many long years, when none of their husbands were alive;
these honourable ladies know how to manage their chores;
they know how to manage relationships; they are highly focused; they are self-motivated;
they inwardly must be missing their life partners, but they would have made compromises and reconciled;
the men have not learnt to do that, they are vulnerable;
are 'poor' chaps, they still need their 'mothers' in their own wives;
the life works only that way, that is the enigma of the nature;
the men are too extrovert, the women are too introvert;
the duality is awesome, wonderful and yet bizzare;
the life on this planet is also so.
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