You are responsible for every thing you are and every thing you are not.
-Sadhguru.
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I have noticed in many many families over a period of nearly last 60 years, that people (both men and women) keep blaming each other and others for their own failures, and even their own limitations; however due to some special glue either of attention, care, affection, kindness and/or love they stick together and complete their responsibilities toward their children and/or their own parents, and when they really feel relaxed and start understanding the simplicity (or complexity!) of the life, it is too late.
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