Hello my dear readers! It's a great pleasure to showcase my work to you all. If you think I'm a very successful person, or someone who knows a lot about life then you're wrong. I'm just a 20 year old man who wants to share my experiences and to help you in your difficult times. I know that I'm nowhere to give you such motivation and advices but, maybe this is something that might take you out of your problems. Every human being has their own struggle, their own story, but if your problems are less difficult than mine, you'll surely overcome this tough time. So let's begin
A BRIEF ABOUT OUR DAILY LIVES
I don't think there's anyone in this world who is completely free from their problems. Personally, I think that only the dead ones are free from their sufferings (I might be wrong) and the ones living on earth will suffer till their end. The ones who are poor are suffering financially, the ones who are rich have everything but can't buy time for their family because they are so busy making money out there that alot of rich people are divorcee or are single. Some are dealing with health issues. Some are crying for a breakup, while some are still cracking jee, neet, nda, upsc and many more exams.
We wake up, we snooze the alarm, then wake up late, have breakfast in hurry (some skip breakfast), we reach our workplace late, get scolded by our office seniors. Students get scolded by teachers. Then you are not able to focus, things get blurry in mind, try to procrastinate (delay things for another day). Now, if you're single then it's more difficult because then you see 'COUPLES', in your office, in your school/College and you get jealous, disappointed, for what people uglier than have and you don't. Somehow we finish our day and we reach home. Then parents look at us as if we are actually their greatest MISTAKE. We end our day regretting that so many people have luxury at young age still we can't afford good lifestyle for our family.
Honestly speaking: this regret of not giving parents a better life hurts alot.
We all use social media. We see our friends going out to Starbucks or some café, clicking good pics, some people flexing their car, bikes, some are flexing their body, and after looking at all this, we again get this FOMO (fear of missing out), insecurity that we don't have whatever our friends and colleagues have.
We always compare our current insecurities with their achievements but when we start to improvise, we get lazy, we avoid making an excuse that we'll do it another day. That day never comes....
Have you ever got this feeling that you are suffering for a very long time and don't know what to do? God purposely letting you suffer?
Then you just need a break from this and have a step towards your healing. You are not lost, but tired. Tired of fighting for a very long time. No one sees the silent war you fighting. People misunderstand you. You pray to God but God doesn't listen your prayers....
But I think that all the things I wrote above are problems that young people like me face. For sure there are people suffering much more than this. Some are fighting cancer. Some are lifting heavy bags of cement to feed their family. Someone is trying their best to get a good yield in farms, while someone is standing at borders so that we sleep peacefully.
No matter whatever you're dealing with, it feels difficult to you because you are tired fighting it for a very long period of time. You can't share it to anyone. If you share, they'll judge you, laugh at you, and that will make you more weak.
So what should you do?
In mathematics, a question problem can be solved in many ways. Similarly the problem you deal with can be solved in many ways. It's just you tried only the same way again and again.
So should we directly start another way to fight our challenges?
No, a healed soldier is much likely to fight the war than the one who is tired for a very long time. You need some time. Some space to heal.
But from where we should start....?
I think the first step towards healing is realising that no one is coming to save you. Once you realise, you stop expecting someone to come in your life to help.
BREAK YOURSELF
The next step towards healing is to emotionally break yourself for a while. You need to cry. You need to remove that huge block of trauma out from your heart and it is only possible by crying. Trust me, don't cry because you're weak, cry because you made this far somehow. It takes courage to open up. Open up to whom?? To friends, Nah. To parents, Nah.
OPEN UP TO YOURSELF........
LISTEN TO MUSIC AND SONGS
This is a must. After you cried, you need music to bring you back to normal. But what kind of music should you listen?
LISTEN songs of the movie Rockstar. This should heal you (Kun Faya Kun)
Healing should start emotionally, then physically
At emotional level, listen songs....
START WORKOUT
You are trying to heal emotionally. But so many things in life require physical efforts, strength, stamina, agility.
The body and mind are connected so well that when your body is fit, so is your mind.
So working out is a very important part of healing. From where should you start?
Start from your home. Do 15min stretching and then 15 min of strength training like pushups, squats, situps, crunches. You can refer to YouTube videos and playstore apps by searching "Begginer home workout"
If you workout already, then increase the intensity. The more you get physically tired, the more your mind gets relaxed.
If you have money, please invest in gym, martial arts, dance, sports. Any of these according to your choice.
Once you get some strength from exercise, you can step outside. Try to meet new people, people who are trying to heal like you...
There are more things to complete your healing which I shall discuss in the next part of this series.
Don't worry, you are not alone, there are many who are lost and unable to figure out their track.
Incase if you are doing well in your life, if you fell in trouble in future then remeber this series....
Even if no one sees you, God sees, he sees your efforts.
You can heal. You can smile
I'm proud of you.....
