Have you ever noticed how when you are crying, people console you to stop crying rather than knowing the exact meaning, almost like crying is a bad thing? A social embarrassment? Why are we expected to always be okay? Why is not okay to not be okay? Why is strongness potrayed as something you should definitely have? Why not vulnerability because I remember that everytime something great was done by me, it was done in a vulnerable state be it stories, poems or anything else.
We have been conditioned to fit in the ideal image of a human? But we can't be ideal, because we are real.
To be ideal we'd have to lose our human part and we wouldn't be unique anymore.
One thing I've come across is how we all experience things so differently and once you understand this you'd know the solution to half of the problems.
There is nothing wrong with you and the way you feel because we all are unique, things that make me sad may not make you sad, so who is right? Both of us.
Especially for men it is that they have to be financially independent and strong and emotionless, well that's impossible, that's not even real. Although I feel that now this pressure is on women too? But that's a topic for another time.
Being financially independent, strong and all is fine but imagine, you have a child, who needs love, support ,care, a child who will learn what he/she sees.
How hurt that child will be seeing that their parents relationship is based on practicality and not emotions? The child will learn that parents only provide financially and don't love each other and also don't love their children, worse that child will grow to be a parent and repeat the same cycle, yes that's what we have been doing since generations.
Equally worse when parents are over loving and over giving, the child will think everything should be his/her way and that everybody is supposed to adjust his/her way.
Needs should be fulfilled, but not all wants should be.
It is dangerous when you are someone who thinks and believes they always get what they want because guess what? That's not how it works.
You may be surprised knowing my chronological age because nobody as young as me thinks like me, everybody is busy having fun but I don't see the "fun" in things they do.
We always wish for things we don't have.
Somebody like me might wish they could have fun without thinking too much and worrying about consequences and someone who does what I just stated might wish they were as serious and mature as I am.
The society adores the child who is polite obedient and lives by the rules and despises the ones who state the flaws out and becomes a rebel.
Nobody is wrong in that, everyone wants to be a rebel the difference is some people are still scared to take the step while others have had enough and took the step.
There is absolutely no life when you live by someone's else's rules and path.
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I took the one less travelled by and it made all the difference.
Why do you choose the path thinking it's safe because someone else walked on it and succeeded, it worked for them doesn't mean it'll work for you.
If Robert frost took the usual travelled by road, we wouldn't have the poem I just stated above, so? What does that speak to you? What does that tell you, about you?
