Mother’s Happiness
By JIRARA
© JIRARA, September 2020
Published by JIRARA on matrubharti.com
All rights reserved. No parts of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted, in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, or otherwise, for any commercial purposes without the prior permission of the author and/or publisher.
Disclaimer: This is the work of fiction as far as all the characters, their names and the names of all the events are concerned and all these are imaginary and hence any resemblance to the persons (and their lives) dead or alive, and any places are coincidental. Even if a few events might look realistic/’real’, these are fictionalised and the associated names are changed in order to maintain their privacy, honour, and security. No intention whatsoever is meant to hurt any feelings of whosoever, irrespective of their personal/cultural beliefs, social or political inclinations, religion-orientations/practicing/philosophy, life styles, and work/business. The ‘I’, ‘my’, ‘me’, and ‘mine’ (if any used) do not necessarily mean the author of this book, and these and other such pronouns: her, hers, his, he, she, him, you, your, yours, ours, theirs…; are used for effective personification and dramatization, and the readers should not take these on their ‘own persons’. The readers should take these stories/verses/thoughts with/in good spirit. The presented ideas and material are based, where feasible, on readings and (thought-) analyses of scientific/other open literature (which seemed most profound and trustworthy), with as much care as possibly taken. The readers are requested to verify these notions on their own, and use their own discretion. However, these stories/verses/thoughts/ideas (mostly original) are expressed here with an intention of increasing awareness of the readers with a hope that in an overall sense, their (and ours) consciousness would be heightened (in all and multiple directions), so that we all can live our lives on this planet with true happiness, ever-lasting peace and real joy (irrespective of our orientations). The author and the publisher will not be responsible for any negative effects/situations arising as a result of reading these stories/verses and/or following the suggestions if any. No discussions/dispute of any kind will be entertained at any time and in any way, manner, and/or forum. JIRARA.
***
Mother’s Happiness
*****
My new slogans:
1. Mother is greatly happy when her son gets married.
2. Mother is much relieved when her daughter gets married.
Discussion:
The mother has a dual nature, even to the extent that some call her having some partiality to her children, if she has more than one child, and especially if one is boy, and the other is a girl; the partiality in the latter case is more evident, even though it is a natural behaviour; and it is still tolerable if there are two boys and/or two girls. In the latter case, in most cases due to the age difference (that might be there) between the two, the partiality is logical, although really not necessary; but the mother goes by her natural instincts, i.e. by heart and emotions and shows this partiality.
The main reason of being partial is due to the different needs of the two (or more children), and also different natures of the two boys or two girls. For such and more reasons, the mother would treat her children differently at different times, in terms of: i) serving food, ii) buying the clothes, iii) allowing them to mix with other’s children, etc. This, then, shows up as the intentional discrimination, but in fact it is natural, and the affection from the mother is total to all her children. The different treatment of a boy from a girl is also natural, because of the gender difference; and this also depends upon the fact that certain specific needs of a girl are quite different from the needs of a boy.
One should not make a big issue of such partialities, since these are natural, and even if intentional, these are logical, and the mother is and should be regarded as an epitome of attention, affection, care and kindness, that her total love bestows upon all her children; and in the long run, this emotional fusion balances out and we grow in the warmth of her love; I think there is no attribute in the nature greater than the mother’s love and her own happiness of taking caring of her own children.
1. In fact, when her son gets married, and then (or even earlier) he gets settled, the mother would be happier because she is relieved.
Here, she feels relieved of the fact that she does not have to cook food for him, and does not have to take much care of him, because now he has got a life partner/companion/wife/LIP (live-in-partner/ship); who would take away a lot of burden from the mother, or at least share the responsibility to the boy.
Of course, she would be always ready to cook dishes that he liked/likes, and also take care of his health, safety and security; like her daily slogans:
a) don’t eat outside,
b) take water bottle from home, just wait I will fill it up and give you,
c) wear helmet always, don’t remove it half the way,
d) be careful in giving rides to unknown persons,
e) drive slowly and carefully, don’t speed up unnecessarily,
f) don’t forget the key in the vehicle,
g) eat the given lunch in time,
h) come home early,
i) be careful if it rains heavily, and so on…, never ending, irrespective of his age!
These things, the mother would do even if he is married, and he himself has his own children, she does not want to relax as such, even though she would say: now I am relieved that he has a wife, and she is taking care of him. This is overpowering love and attachment to her son. Looks like she is always happy this way.
That is the mother of the son!
2. When her daughter gets married, and then (or even earlier) she gets settled, the mother would feel relieved because she feels happy that after all, the daughter got a good groom, and she would be happy in her own new home.
Of course, she will be missing her, because the daughter was always was helping in the kitchen, doing washing machine, and several sundry jobs for the mother, in addition to her own college-classes and assignments. Even these two ladies would share their personal health issues that only ladies face; like mensuration, other gynaec problems, and even emotional issues regarding the relationships with the members of the opposite sex/gender. The daughters can derive a lot of benefits from such interactions with their mature mothers, since the latter have their own personal experience of the married life.
The daughter is really a good and trusted companion for the mother, and in fact when the daughter gets married, though the mother would be happy outwardly, inwardly not so happy. Here, the mother would explicitly display her dual nature:
a) she is happy because the daughter got a good groom and a new home; but she feels now lone, because the daily discussion sessions are no more;
b) she feels in one way relived; but on the other side a bit worried, if the daughter would be really happy, and her in-laws would be treating her properly or not;
c) will she be able to carry the burden of the work in her husband’s household?,…, in fact the mother, though outwardly relieved, inwardly she is always thinking of her daughter and her affairs in her new home.
The mother is, then really not relieved, not free from her responsibility to her beloved daughter. May be the mother has her own difficult experiences in her own life, and she does not want her daughter to go through similar ones at the new place with new and different types of people. This is overpowering affection and care of the mother to her daughter.
That is the mother of the daughter!
Whichever way you judge, a true and affectionate mother is always with her all the children, and her all the children (the nostalgic memories of the times spent together in the years of growing) are in her own mental plane, and the mother derives conscious happiness in this way; that is the wonderful way of the mother.
That is the mother’s true happiness.
*****
