I am starting this series which is kind of personal and may be relatable for many. This series will cover some topics about life. Those incidents which happens at least once in each and everyone’s life. Series will be all about the thoughts. Thoughts with which I encountered with in everyday life. I really don’t know how much justifiable it is. I even don’t know they are in the right direction or not. These are just questions and answers with myself.
I hope everyone will intercept themselves with perspective which I am going to put in this series. I don’t claim that whatever I will write in this series are absolutely true. These are just based on my experiences with life. Everyone has their own experiences. Life always taste differently to every person.
Let’s begin :
Chapter- 01: You were never appreciated:
I have received an appreciation letter from office for doing well at work. People got stood up and congratulate me for receiving an appreciation from Company. I felt good for 10 Minutes and at 11th Minute it was just another letter.
Shouldn’t I take proud of getting appreciated? Appreciation and Respect that is all a person need. The question is “Is a well drafted letter which is among the various drafts stored by HR an appreciation?” Appreciation is something which bring at least a minor change in your life. I even can’t get a free tea out of that letter. In fact, Very Next minute no one will even remember who the hell you are. You received a letter because you were doing better than others, not because you have earned or add something in your work. Reality is you were never appreciated but were compared.
It is not something new you have encountered with. Just take a dip to your past where you think you were appreciated. Getting good Grades in schools, Getting Rank, Get a Degree anything. Were you appreciated or compared? It’s an intrinsic nature of People that they always compare. They do it even when they do charity “Oh that Trust needs more money, Let me give it to them then this” and you are only one of those walking Species.
What is Truth? Truth is No one will appreciate you. No one can appreciate you. Only One man can that is the person you see in mirror. Because when you appreciated yourself, It does make changes to your life. Changes that you can feel, Changes that you see, Changes that makes you something different than earlier you.
Lots of trophies you may receive during your carrier but it also bites you at bad times. It bites you when you lose. A thought will come to mind “What should I do with these trophies at this time?” Why those trophies hurts? Because it is the result of comparison and not appreciation. The Drama of Comparison is deep. It is sometimes hidden.
Stop searching for appreciation around you, It will never happen because it is inside you.
